Doris J. Mabry — Benton, IL

Doris J. Mabry, 86, of Benton, passed away at 1:15 a.m., on Sunday, May 3, 2020, at the Helia Care Center in Energy, IL.

She was born on June 2, 1933, to Lawrence and Gladys (Wooldridge) Clifton in Mt. Vernon, IL. Doris worked in data entry in the Computer IT department for Franklin Hospital for 26 years, retiring in 1998. On August 2, 1952, she married James Lee Mabry, and he preceded her in death on June 4, 2002.

She was a member of the North Benton Baptist Church. Doris was a loving mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. She enjoyed traveling, going shopping, socializing and going out to eat. She also loved her pets.

Doris is survived by her loving children, Gary L. (Pam) Mabry and C. Larry (Valerie) Mabry; two grandchildren, Brea (Cliff) Thomas and Brian (Steph Schaaf) Mabry; two great-grandchildren, Olivia Thomas and Avery Thomas; special friend, JoAnn Nuenswander and several nieces, nephews and cousins.

She was preceded in death by her parents, Lawrence and Gladys Clifton and her husband, James Lee Mabry.

Services have been entrusted to Pate Funeral Home, 301 S. Main St., Benton, IL.

Private graveside services will be held on Thursday, May 7, 2020, at 1:00 p.m. at the Masonic and Odd Fellows Cemetery, Benton, IL, with the Rev. Mark Minor, officiating.

Memorials may be made to the American Heart Association, American Diabetes Association or the Benton Ministerial Alliance, and can be mailed to the funeral home.

Online condolences can be given at www.patefh.com.

Robert Lee Chwarczinski — Benton, IL

Robert Lee Chwarczinski, 70, of Benton, passed away on May 4, 2020.

He was born on January 22, 1950 in Christopher, IL to Joseph and Ann (Krolikowski) Chwarczinski. He married Tonya (McKown) Chwarczinski and she survives of Cambria, IL.

He is also survived by his children Lisa (Curtis) Leek of DuQuoin, Robert Chwarczinski of Mt Vernon, Tyson (Josh) Bandy of Marion; one son-in-law Robert Leek of Mt Vernon; grandchildren Johnathon, Brooke, Trinity, Shelby, Kyliee, Everett, Aranda, Scott, Nathaniel and Sarah; nine great grandchildren; three brothers David Chwarczinski of Christopher, Jimmy Chwarczinski of Zeigler and Paul (Earline) Chwarczinski of Christopher.

He was a Vietnam Veteran serving in the United States Navy.

He was preceded in death by his parents and one brother Leonard Chwarczinski.

His wishes were to be cremated. The family will have a graveside service at Mulkeytown Cemetery at a later date.

Gilbert Funeral Home in Christopher is assisting the family with arrangements.

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Wanda Kirkpatrick-Christopher, IL

Wanda Kirkpatrick, 84, of Christopher, passed away on May 2, 2020 at Helia Healthcare in Benton.

She was born on February 11, 1936 in Flint, MI to Talbert Herbert and Bonnie (Furlow) Wall. She married Harley Norman Kirkpatrick on September 1, 1952 and he preceded her in death on January 6, 2012.

She is survived by her daughter Patty (Mike) McCubbins of Benton; grandchildren Ryan (Rachel) Payne of Sesser, Sean (Kari) Payne of Benton, Page (Jamie) Kirkpatrick and Amanda Yosanovich of Buckner; great grandchildren Shelby, Dustin, Sadie Jo, Camden, Colton, Olivia, Drake, Isla, Harper, Trace, Lucas and Rowen.

She was preceded in death by her parents, husband, one son Norman Kirkpatrick and three sister.

There will be a private family graveside service at the Mulkeytown Cemetery with Brother Larry Cook officiating.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the American Cancer Society and will be accepted at the funeral home.

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Letta Mae Conti-Zivich – Caseyville, IL (formerly of Benton, IL)

Letta Mae Conti-Zivich, 98, of Caseyville, formerly of Benton, passed away at 4:45 p.m., on Tuesday, April 28, 2020, in Caseyville, IL.


She was born on November 5, 1921, to Marion and Verna (Foster) Willis in Benton. Letta married Dino R. Conti, he passed away November 8, 1975. She married Michael Zivich, Sr., who passed away June 7, 1982.

Letta is survived by a son, Richard Conti and wife, Nancy, of Golden, CO; a daughter, Glenna Hamilton and husband, Ross, of Caseyville, IL; one grandson, Craig Conti and wife, Sharon, of VA; and two great-grandsons, Spencer Conti and Bryce Conti, both of VA.

She was preceded in death by her parents, Marion and Verna Willis; first husband, Dino R. Conti; second husband, Michael Zivich, Sr., and one brother, Raleigh Willis.

Services have been entrusted to Pate Funeral Home, 301 S. Main St., Benton, IL.

Private graveside services will take place at the Masonic and Odd Fellows Cemetery, Benton, IL.

Memorials may be made to the American Cancer Society and may be mailed to the funeral home.

Online condolences can be given at www.patefh.com.

Replacing ‘Pomp and Circumstance’ with social distancing: A message to the Class of 2020

A message to graduating high school seniors — the Class of 2020:

Before we get to the reality of this moment in time, let me begin by saying: Congratulations on your graduation, it’s a great accomplishment and regardless of what is happening in the world around us these days, it’s a milestone in your life, one of a handful of events that you should cherish. And you will realize as you get older that there are only very few real milestone-moments in your life … and because of something completely out of your control, an unseen virus that originated thousands of miles away, you are going to lose one of them.

As we roll into the month of May, it’s unprecedented that schools across the nation are closed, caps and gowns are still in boxes and gymnasiums where commencement exercises would be held are dark. As seniors you have lost the wonderfully independent days of April and May, days that should have been spent with classmates you started kindergarten with 12 years ago. Sadly, shelter-in-place, social distancing and online learning have replaced “Pomp and Circumstance” and graduation joy across the nation.

Like virtually everybody, I feel sad, I feel bad and I am highly disappointed for you. But, with that said, there will be no weeping, no wailing and certainly no hand-wringing from me concerning this particular hand that you have been dealt. Instead, I want to use this message to point out that you have been given the priceless opportunity, at a very early age, to learn two of life’s greatest lessons. The first lesson is that life is not always fair and the second lesson is that things happen, sometimes bad things, that we have no control over.

Many of you have lived your entire life within the safe and secure walls of your home, your school, your church, your circle of friends and your extra-curricular activities and you have never experienced real adversity – adversity that is totally out of your control. Well, even though you’re only 18 years old, let me join with many other seasoned, old folks and say: ‘Welcome to the real world!’

I recently heard a person refer to the cancellation of graduations as a “tragedy.” Let me be clear with you, here in the real world, this does not rank as a tragedy in your life. A tragedy is a young couple being told their child has a terminal illness. A tragedy is a young person dying in a car accident. A tragedy is finding out that your young child has special needs that will require medical treatment the rest of their lives. A cancelled graduation is a disappointment. Understanding the difference between a disappointment and a tragedy will help you throughout life to sort through adversities that come your way – and they will come your way.

I believe this positive message I bring to the Class of 2020 is far more important than anything else you have learned in the classroom during your four years of high school and it’s a message that will carry you a long, long way in life.

That simple message is that what you do throughout your life with adversity, setbacks, problems and crushed dreams will either make you or break you. It’s very important for you to understand that you have only two choices in life when adversity strikes, you either curl up in a ball and cry about your misfortune and blame somebody else, or you square your shoulders, hold your head high, rely on every ounce of inner strength you have, trust in God and then use the setback, the problem, the adversity for motivation to move forward and turn an obstacle into an opportunity and a mess into a message. In the end you become the victor and not the victim.

There is an old saying that states: “The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. In other words, it’s not about circumstances but it’s what you’re made of that will sustain you in every aspect of your life.” That last line is worth repeating: It’s what you’re made of that will sustain you in every aspect of your life.” If you take nothing else away from these words remember that previous sentence.

In closing let me offer a laundry-list of advice in no particular order – get a job, work hard, give back, don’t whine, ask questions … ask lots of questions about everything, be kind to others and be kind to yourself, don’t be afraid to take the road less traveled, have a purpose and understand that poverty of purpose is worse than poverty of purse, stand up for what you believe, say what you mean and mean what you say, assume nothing, learn to laugh at yourself, dream big, smile at people you don’t know, make your bed every morning because that way you’ve accomplished something before you ever get dressed, laugh often, do more with less, look people in the eye when you talk to them, remember there is always two sides to every story, never forget that you are capable of much more than you think and learn to accept responsibility when you screw up … and in case nobody has told you … you will screw up. That’s life! And last and most important … trust and thank God every single day – regardless of a lost graduation – because you have the world at your feet and the amazing good fortune to live in the greatest nation in the world!

God bless you on your journey Class of 2020, you ARE the future and we’re counting on you! There is a big world with unlimited opportunities and challenges out there waiting on you. Make us proud!

Joan H. Johnson-Christopher, IL

Joan Haas Johnson, 90, of Christopher, Illinois died Wednesday, April 29, 2020 at home. Joan’s wishes were to be cremated upon her death. The Gilbert Funeral Home in Christopher is in charge of arrangements.

Joan was born on February 12, 1930 in Chicago, Illinois. The daughter of Floyd Earl Haas and Melanie Hedwig Ursula (Kleih) Haas. She was married to E. Kenneth Johnson on February 25, 1950.

Joan was the editor of the Beverly Review in the 60’s ad 70’s and later in the real estate business in the Chicago area.

She is survived by her five children, Melanie (Stephen), Cynthia (Donald), Mark (Karen), Pamela (Patrick), and Wendy (Joseph) as well as many grandchildren and great grandchildren.

She was preceded in death by her husband Ken and her parents and brothers, Floyd and Jack.

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Gloria Mae Menckowski- Mulkeytown, IL

Gloria Mae Menckowski, 80, of Mulkeytown, passed away on Wednesday April 22, 2020 at her home.

She was born on July 2, 1939 in Royalton, IL to Walter and Edna (Eades) Smillie. She married James Menckowski on December 24, 1958 and he preceded her in death on October 23, 1994.

She is survived by her children James (Christine) Menckowski II of Mulkeytown, Chris (Jerri) Menckowski of Mulkeytown and Tonya Menckowski of Zeigler; grandchildren Kara Alford, James Menckowski III, Shane Menckowski, Jamie Sizemore, Nicolas Menckowski, Chloe Menckowski, Kennedy Menckowski, Jessie Menckowski, Preston Clark and Payton Clark; great grandchildren Xander, Koda, Serenity, Josie, Naomi, Channa, Jacob, Briley, Bryson, Avery, Camille and Adlee; two brothers and one sister Bill (Pat) Smillie of Royalton, Glenda (Glenn) Tripp of Herrin and Jerry (Barbara) Smillie of Troy, IL.

Gloria had worked in the sewing factory and was a homemaker.

She was preceded in death by her parents and her husband.

The family will have a private graveside service at Miner’s Cemetery in Royalton, there will be a Celebration of Life service at a later date.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Family Church of God. Donations can be sent to the Gilbert Funeral Home in Christopher.

Gilbert Funeral Home in Christopher is handling arrangements.

For more information go to our website www.gilbertfuneralhomes.com

Robert “Bobby” Mitchell Jr.-DuQuoin, IL

Robert “Bobby” Anderson Mitchell, Jr. passed away peacefully at Fairview Nursing Center in Du Quoin, IL on April 24, 2020.

He was born on November 7, 1942 in Bath, North Carolina to Robert and Meredith (Brinn) Mitchell of Norfolk, Virginia. He is survived by his four daughters and sons-in-law, Roberta and Jerry Fogg of Spartanburg, SC, Lisa and Dennis Bastien of Vergennes, IL, Lori and Philip Crockett of Inman, SC and Veronica Mitchell and JC Oxendine of Carbondale, IL; the mother of his children, Doris Oliver Chapman, sister Patricia Nalepka and brothers Alan and Don Mitchell; grandchildren, Ronald Hunter, Ben Dalton, Terianne Rickett, Wyatt Bastien, Keith Cox, Annie Claire Wesselman, Grace Bastien, Madalynn Donato and Marilynn Donato; great grandchildren, Neveah Hunter and Anderson Rickett.

He was loved and cared for by many special people at Fairview Nursing Center and his special friend, Rose Kaburia. He was preceded in death by his parents Robert and Meredith Mitchell and granddaughters Brittany Lynne Fogg and Christy Cox White. Robert served in the U.S. Army and retired from the W.M. Wrigley, Jr. Company. A journey of life celebration to is planned for a later date.

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Lula Belle Kirkpatrick – Bartlett, Illinois (formerly of Benton, IL)

Mrs. Lula Belle Kirkpatrick, age 85, of Bartlett, Illinois and formerly of Benton, passed away Wednesday, April 22, 2020 at the Amita Health St. Joseph Hospital in Elgin, Illinois.

Due to the Coronavirus (COVID-19) Pandemic, and the public gatherings of no more than 10 people and observing social distancing; Services will be family only and private. Burial will be private at the Masonic and Odd Fellows Cemetery of Benton. The Leffler Funeral Home, of Benton, is in charge of arrangements.

Lula Belle was born on February 19, 1935 near Rend City, Illinois, the daughter of Lester Gilbreath and Mabel (Dugger) Gilbreath. She married Ernest Wayne Kirkpatrick on May 25, 1950 and he preceded her in death on June 12, 1992.

She was a homemaker and had previously worked for Standard Oil Company.

Mrs. Kirkpatrick enjoyed attending craft fairs, shopping, watching television, and going out to eat. She especially enjoyed spending time with her family.

Surviving are three children: Sandra S. Holz and husband James of Hanover Park, IL, Gary W. Kirkpatrick of Bartlett, IL, Michael D. Kirkpatrick and wife Connie of Wausau, WI; four grandchildren: Adam W. Smith and wife Alicia, Michael R. Smith and wife Nicole, Gary W. Kirkpatrick, Jr., Rhonda Marie Kirkpatrick; two great-grandsons: Austin James Smith and Cameron Jacob Smith; a sister Sylvia Gipson of Benton; and several nieces and nephews and their families.

She was preceded in death by her parents; husband; and two sisters: Jeanne O’Daniell and Doris Galloway.

Memorial contributions, In Memory of Lula Belle Kirkpatrick, may be made to either the American Hear Association, American Lung Association, Lions Club International or to the American Hearing Research Foundation; and may be mailed to the Leffler Funeral Home, 401 East Main Street, Benton, IL 62812.

To leave online condolences to the family, or to share memories of Lula Belle, visit www.lpfuneralhome.com

Arnold Nadler – Benton, IL

Arnold Nadler, 92 of Benton, Illinois, passed away on Wednesday, April 22, 2020, at his residence surrounded by his loving family.

Our extended family has lost our role model, who was a dedicated, affectionate and steadfast rock and haven for all of us. He loved his wife, children and grandchildren with all his heart and soul. He will be sorely missed as the patriarch of our family and our core and our source of goodness, honesty, advice and trust. Every family should be as lucky as we were to have this wonderful man in all or our lives.

Arnold started his life in Wilsonville, Illinois, Macoupin County, born April (1928) to Elsie (Bourlard) and William “Bill” Nadler. He had a fun, resourceful and loving family growing up in a small supportive Italian community where his father worked in Coal Mine #4. Arnold distinguished himself early, played in a big band, tended bar at “the Club,” provided carpenter services and co-owned the area’s first bowling alley.

Arnold served with distinction in the Korean War (1950-1952) Company C, 17th Regiment Combat Team, 7th Division North Korea. Upon returning home he attended the newly formed vocational education program at Southern Illinois University Carbondale (SIU-C) obtaining first a BS and then a MS in vocational education. While attending school, he met the love of his life and soul mate Rosalie Whitecotton.

Arnold and Rosalie built their first house in Herrin, Illinois while he oversaw the Building trades program at Royalton high school. They were blessed with the arrival of their children Richard, Susan, and Valerie while living in Herrin. Rosalie and Arnold then moved to Sesser where he continued teaching building trades at Sesser High School. Sesser was a great place for the new family and many, many friends were established. Long summer afternoons were spent with fellow teachers and friends on porches while all of the children were playing games in vacant lots. Arnold built a new home in Sesser as well as many building trade homes on South Broadway in Sesser. As the family continued to grow a second home was built in Sesser and their fourth child, Joel, was born. From Sesser they moved to Benton again for Arnold to teach the Building Trades program at Benton High School. Throughout all his teaching he also worked as a master carpenter and built and remodeled many homes in southern Illinois. He often oversaw the entire building process from creating the original architectural plans to final finishing of the houses he built. The impact of the number of houses he built in Benton, Illinois, resulted in being honored with his own street, Nadler Drive, in Benton. The children moved on to homes of their own; however Benton, a great community with many great friends, remained “home” for all the family.

Arnold’s passions included family history, gardening and fishing. He researched the family history extensively and was a source of information for all who shared his passion for their families past. He also provided the entire family and community with produce from his garden. The grandkids all wanted to go fishing with grandpa.

Rosalie his wife and partner was the love of his life serving him gourmet meals, taking care of the children and house in an extraordinary way, and loving him as only she could. Susan married Bob Blaylock and currently lives in Huron, Ohio and has 2 children, Doug and Richard. Valerie married Scott Newberry and lives in Marion, Illinois and also has 2 children, Angie and Greg. Joel married Lisa Mix and has one son, Raymond. Joel is now married to Meghan Lowery and currently lives in Indianapolis. Both Valerie and Joel attended and received PhD degrees from SIU-C and became teachers, just like Dad. There are five grandchildren, Doug and wife Heidi Blaylock of O’Fallon, Illinois; Angie and husband Tim Belford of Marion, Illinois; Richard Blaylock and wife Besse Rawitsch of Wilmington, North Carolina; Greg and wife Jennifer Newberry of Newmarket, Ontario, Canada; and Raymond Nadler of Carbondale, Illinois. There are seven great grandchildren; Jared and Travis Blaylock, Sherri and husband Trenton Pulley, Aidan Belford, and Gregory, Savannah, and Jonathan Newberry. There is a great-great grandchild, Natalie Jo Pulley.

Arnold was preceded in death by his beloved son Richard Dale Nadler. There will be a memorial service at a later date. In lieu of flowers donations may be made to Hospice of Southern Illinois.

Online condolences may be made to the family at www.patefh.com.

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