Pastor Rick Warren: Don’t Give Up: Refuse to be Bitter

Don’t Give Up: Refuse to Be Bitter

“I came naked from my mother’s womb,’ [Job] said, ‘and I shall have nothing when I die. The Lord gave me everything I had, and they were his to take away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.’ In all of this Job did not sin or revile God” (Job 1:21-22 TLB).

Grief is a part of life, but you can’t let a season of grief turn into a lifestyle of grief.

At some point you have to let it go!

There is a difference between mourning and moaning, between weeping and wallowing. A loss can deepen me, but that doesn’t mean it can define me. A loss is a part of my maturity but not my identity.

God gives you grace to get through what you’re going through. Other people may not have that same measure of grace, so they might give you bad advice!

“[Job’s] wife said to him, ‘Are you still trying to maintain your integrity? Curse God and die.’ But Job replied, ‘You talk like a godless woman. Should we accept only good things from the hand of God and never anything bad?’ So in all this, Job said nothing wrong” (Job 2:9-10 NLT).

Job refused to become bitter and resentful. Bitterness prolongs pain. It doesn’t relieve it; it only reinforces it. “Watch out that no bitterness takes root among you . . . it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives” (Hebrews 12:15 TLB).

Job gives three steps in refocusing:

1. Put your heart right. That means you forgive. “But I can’t forgive!” you say. That’s why you need Christ in your life; he’ll give you the power to forgive.

2. Reach out to God. Ask him to come into your heart and heal those wounds and help you and give you strength and power for tomorrow, next week, next month.

3. Face the world again, firm and courageous. Many people, when they’re hurt, withdraw into a shell. They say, “I’ll never let anybody hurt me again!” They retire from life. Job says to do the exact opposite: Resume your life; don’t retire from it. Get back out there in the world.

There’s a happy ending to Job’s life. “The Lord blessed the last part of Job’s life even more than he had blessed the first” (Job 42:12 GNT). Job went through all this hurt, but in spite of that, God blessed the last part of Job’s life even more than the first.

Wouldn’t you like the same in your life? Say, “God, I don’t care whether I have five years or 50 years left. Would you bless the last part of my life more than the first part?”

The lesson of Job’s life is this: It doesn’t matter who’s hurt you or how long you’ve been hurt or how deeply you’ve been hurt. God can make the rest of your life the best of your life if you’re willing to forgive and let go of resentment and release the offender.

Talk About It

Talk It Over

  • In grief, why is it easier to draw into ourselves rather than be with people who will help us move forward?
  • How have you experienced or observed the debilitating effects of bitterness?
  • What do you want God to help you accomplish in the rest of your life? What do you need to let go of so that he can work fully in and through you?

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Larry Dale Flowers-Mulkeytown

Larry Dale Flowers, age 85, passed away on May 24, 2018 at Parkway Manor in Marion.

He was born on June 13, 1932 to Dale and Irene (Brown) in Mulkeytown.

On November 23, 1950, he married his red-headed girl, Vera L. Hiller in Christopher.  They shared over 66 years of marriage until her death on May 28, 2017.

Larry was active in the community and served on the Zeigler Fire and Police Department Auxiliary, was a member of the Christopher Saddle Club, Zeigler Saddle Club, Zeigler Masonic Lodge and was an active Shriner.  He announced many horse shows throughout Southern Illinois in the 1970’s and 1980’s and enjoyed watching his young sons participate in horse shows.  He was a member of the First Christian Church in Christopher where he served many years as an elder and board chairman.

Larry supported his young family by working at Allen’s and Country Set as a sewing machine mechanic.  He was the proud owner of Larry’s Trailer Sales in Zeigler serving the area for over 50 years.  He and his family also own Flowers Farms.  Larry and Vera enjoyed traveling all over the world and he loved the hunting trips with his friends.

He leaves behind his son and daughter-in-law, Richard and Gayla Flowers, grandchildren, Lacy Holt, Larry A. Flowers, Courtney, Chad and Chase Flowers, great grandson A.J. Holt, daughter–in-law Pricilla Flowers, brother and sister-in-law Kenneth and Carolyn Flowers, several nieces and nephews as well as many business and personal friends.

He was preceded in death by his parents, wife, Vera Flowers, and son Larry Allen Flowers.

Graveside services will be on Saturday May 26, 2018 at 11:00 AM at the Mulkeytown Cemetery with brother Denny Bush officiating.  Visitation will be on Friday May 25, 2018 from 5:00 PM until 8:00 PM and on Saturday May 26, 2018 from 9:00 AM until 10:30 AM at the Gilbert Funeral Home in Christopher.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Shriner’s Hospital for Children and will be accepted at the funeral home.

For more information go to our website www.gilbertfuneralhomes.com  

Lillie Adkins – Benton, IL

Lillie Adkins, 94, passed away at 7:45 AM, Thursday, May 24th, 2018, at her home in Benton, Illinois. The first child of Marion and Lelia (Martin) Stephens, Lillie was born August 5, 1923 in Harveyton, Kentucky.  She married James Adkins in Fleming, Kentucky on December 23, 1939 and over the years they were blessed with eight healthy children.

Mr. and Mrs. Adkins moved to Benton from Kentucky in October 1961 and settled into the community with their active children. While Mr. Adkins was busy working at Freeman Coal Orient #5 mine and later at Inland Steel Coal in Sesser, Mrs. Adkins focused her time on her children as they actively participated in sports and activities sponsored by their schools and community.

In addition to Lillie’s eight children she was blessed with fourteen grandchildren, twenty-three great grandchildren, and four great, great grandchildren. Spending time with each was a great pleasure for her and her mothering instincts extended not only to her own children but to their friends as well, as she offered food, love, encouragement and sage advice to all. She most recently delighted in spending a weekend with her newest six-month-old great grandson and having a four-generation photo taken.

Lillie was an avid reader and was often seen visiting the Benton Public Library. She was also an enthusiast of all televised sports, with a keen interest in watching basketball, especially following the career of her favorite star and announcer, Doug Collins.

Survivors include five daughters, Mary Lou Shockley, West Frankfort, Brenda Doty (Tod) and Vickie Willis (Bruce), both from Benton, Sharon Merwin, Dallas, Texas, and Rhonda Cockrum (Curtis), Oak Ridge, Tennessee.  Sons, Richard Adkins (Kathy), Middletown, Ohio, James Adkins (Deborah), Tuscaloosa, Alabama and Roger Adkins (Glenna), London, Kentucky.

She was preceded in death by her husband, James Adkins, her parents, Marion and Lelia Stephens, three brothers, John, Gordon, and Robert Stephens, and sons-in-law, Jack Shockley and Davis Merwin.

The family extends special thanks and much gratitude to Leotta Burbank, an incredible Care Angel whose ever present pleasing personality and warmth brought comfort, peace, joy, and friendship to our mom and family.   To Rachael Janello, mom’s physical therapist whose kindness, understanding, warmth, and laughter led to an endearing friendship.  Thanks also to the following Care Angels who have helped and supported us over the last few months:  Emily Harris, Ruth Zeboski, Kendra Murphy, Gayla Porritt, and Janice Biggs. A special thanks also to Hospice of Southern Illinois whose support and guidance brought comfort and peace to our family.

Funeral services will be at Pate Funeral Home, 301 South Main St, Benton, Illinois on Saturday at 11:00 AM.  We welcome all who wish to attend.

Memorial contributions may be made to Benton Public Library, 502 South Main Street, Benton, IL  62812 or Hospice of Southern Illinois, 204 Halfway Road, Marion, IL  62959, and will be accepted at the funeral home. 

 

LaVera L. Spilman – Benton, IL

LaVera L. Spilman, 62, of Benton passed away May 20, 2018 at her home.

She was born in Christopher, IL on July 9, 1955, the daughter of John & Pauline (Piazza) Spilman.

She worked for as a registered nurse at Heartland Regional Medical Center until failing health.

LaVera is survived by two sons, Damian Dawson and wife Kelly, of Benton and Derek Dawson, of Benton; four grandchildren Mayci, Cameron, Makenzie and Taylor; three brothers, Merv Spilman, John Spilman and Ronnie Corbin.

She was preceded in death by her parents and a brother, Paul DeGroff.

Graveside funeral services will be held at 1 p.m. Thursday, May 24th at the Masonic & Oddfellows Cemetery in Benton. There will be no visitation and those attending the service are requested to meet at the cemetery.

Rangers face A-J at Harrisburg Sectional Tournament

The Benton Rangers baseball team, winners of six straight and the Du Quoin Regional champ, will face off against Anna-Jonesboro on Wednesday in the second of two games to be played at the Harrisburg Sectional Tournament.

Here’s the brackets for sectional and super-sectional play.

Salukis open MVC Tournament on Wednesday

SOUTHERN ILLINOIS (27-28) at MVC Tournament // May 23-26, 2018 // Dallas, Texas (Weather) // Horner Ballpark (2,000 / Turf) // SIU Game Notes PDF


Southern Illinois will open the MVC Tournament at 9 a.m. on Wednesday morning against Indiana State. The Salukis are the No.5 seed and will face No. 4-seed Indiana State in the tournament’s opening game. 

Tournament Central » MVC-Sports.com

TOURNAMENT FORMAT


The MVC Tournament features all eight MVC baseball teams. Based on overall seed, the teams are split into two four-team brackets. Each bracket plays a double-elimination format, and the two bracket winners face off in a single-elimination championship game. Fans are encourage to follow the MVC Tournament Central for all game times, ESPN+ and live stats links, game stories, and updates. 

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AROUND THE HORN


  • Southern Illinois opens the 2018 Missouri Valley Conference tournament against Indiana State at 9 a.m. on Wednesday. SIU-INS is the tournament’s opening game.
  • The format of the tournament is two, four-team brackets. Each bracket will play a double-elimination format, and the winners of the two brackets will play a single-elimination championship game.
  • The Salukis won at least one MVC Tournament game in the first six seasons under head coach Ken Henderson before going 0-2 last season. Henderson was the interim head coach in 1994, and the Salukis also won one game in that MVC Tournament.
  • SIx Southern Illinois players earned All-MVC recognition.
  • Baird and Blackfan earned All-MVC for the second time. Kopach and Netemeyer end their careers as three-time All-MVC performers.
  • SIU has pitched seven shutouts in 2018, which ranks fourth in the nation and most for any SIU pitching staff since 1979.
  • Connor Kopach (31 steals) and Alex Lyon (29) are the nation’s No. 1 stolen base combination.
  • Kopach leads all active players in the NCAA in career stolen bases (82).
  • Against top-40 RPI competition (Dallas Baptist, Missouri State, and Tennessee Tech–all on the road), Michael Baird has a 1.93 ERA.
  • Over the last three seasons (291 innings), Baird has a 2.99 ERA.
  • Among Valley aces, DBU’s Trevor Conn leads in ERA (but Baird has pitched 36 more innings) and MSU’s Dylan Coleman leads in strikeouts (but Baird’s ERA is a run better than Coleman’s). Baird ranks second in the MVC in both ERA and strikeouts.
  • Ryan Netemeyer has 37 career saves, which is second in MVC history.
  • Baird (320 innings), Blackfan (69 doubles), Kopach (82 steals) and Netemeyer (37 saves) lead all active MVC players in those career statistics.
  • Logan Blackfan had his 21-game hitting streak earlier this season, tied for the fourth-longest hitting streak in SIU history.
  • Connor Kopach was named to the watch list for the Brooks Wallace Award, given to the nation’s top shortstop.
  • Nikola Vasic has reached base in 51 of the last 53 games. Vasic has separate 27- and 17-consecutive games reached base streaks this season.
  • SIU ranks fourth nationally in stolen bases with 125.
  • SIU has turned 45 double plays this year, which leads the MVC. The Salukis have led the MVC in turning double plays in five of the last six seasons.
  • Five SIU pitcher have at least one stretch of 10-consecutive batters retired this season (Baird, Harrison, Harrison, Givens, Steege).

Lawmakers debate Rauner’s death penalty idea, accuse each side of playing politics

Is it justice or revenge or politics? Opponents and proponents of bringing back the death penalty in Illinois for cop killers and mass murderers said their piece Monday in committee.

Here’s a link to the story at Illinois News Network

Pheasant found guilty of first degree murder

Brian Pheasant was found guilty Tuesday of first-degree murder in the 2016 shooting death of his wife, Beth Pheasant.

Here’s a link to the story in the Southern Illinoisan.

West Frankfort man injured in four-vehicle accident in Jackson County

According to reports Jarrod Barton, of West Frankfort, was southbound on Illinois 13/127 and pulled into the path of a northbound vehicle, driven by Saqib Khan of Carbondale, as he attempted to turn onto Elkville Road. Barton’s vehicle was also struck by two other vehicles that were also southbound.

SIU’s Dylan Givens earns MVC Pitcher of the Week honors

DYLAN GIVENS EARNS MVC PITCHER OF THE WEEK

MVC Release

ST. LOUIS – Southern Illinois sophomore pitcher Dylan Givens was named Missouri Valley Conference Pitcher of the Week, the league announced Monday. Givens threw five shutout innings of one-hit baseball in Saturday’s win over Bradley. 

The game was lightning-shortened after five innings, giving Givens a complete-game shutout with two strikeouts. Only a one-out fifth-inning double prevented Givens from throwing a no-hitter. He limited the Braves to an .059 batting average.

Givens, a first-year transfer from John A. Logan College, earned the honor for the first time in his career. SIU earned MVC Pitcher of the Week four times this year, with Brad Harrison earning the honor the other three times. It is the sixth overall MVC weekly honor for SIU this year, with Alex Lyon earning Player of the Week honors twice.

Givens is the fourth pitcher on SIU’s staff to earn the honor in his career, joining Harrison, Michael Baird and Ryan Netemeyer. The shutout was Southern’s seventh of the season, which ranks fourth nationally and is the most for an SIU staff since 1979. 

Southern Illinois opens the MVC Tournament on Wednesday morning vs. Indiana State. The Salukis and Sycamores are the tournament’s opening game, with first pitch coming at 9 a.m. All games in the MVC Tournament will be broadcast on ESPN+.
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